Sometimes I just don't get it!
When can you consider yourself not single anymore and does not being single mean you have to stop doing certain things??
Have now been seeing "Dr Carter" for a while. Took him to Anna's party last Saturday so he has met some of my friends. Sunday we had brunch at my place (yes... he spent the night ;)). He went back to his place as I was meeting some friends for an early movie.
Monday he called and came over for dinner (spent the night again). Tuesday had my hair done all day and yesterday I went over to his place and spent the night there.
As I can sometime be quite unfocused I made quite a fool of myself yesterday. I had made a roastbeef and potatogratin. He called and asked if I wanted to come over after his training. I said I would bring some food so I packed up some meat and potatoes in a box and put it in the fridge. I got a bit stressed as I was leaving the house and just grabbed a box out of the fridge. When I got to his house he, hungry as he was, opened the box and found what used to be the potatosallad I made last Sunday covered in mould!
I went to McDonald's and picked up some food....
Back to my single/not single issues. I'm going to a party next weekend, should I ask if he wants to come and in two weeks I'm having some friends over for cheese and wine. Should I invite him to this?? I really don't know how I would feel if it was the other way around... These are things that I've planned since a while back b.C. (before Carter). If he had plans with his friends I wouldn't automatically expect him to invite me along. I would be happy if he asked but I would probably say no.
Maybe I'll just ask him and he can decide for himself. We don't need to do everything together.
I need my space... wonder if I should call him tonight, after all I did promise him dinner...
Now I sound needy and very girlie...
Was dad's birthday yesterday and Fathers day on Sunday so I got him a very nice sweater. Sis and I are taking him to an exhibition and dinner on Sunday. Should be nice, I do enjoy spending time with my dad.
Well, better get on with writing a proposal for a champagnetasting and my new PR-adventure...
Song of the day: Walking in my shoes - Depeche Mode
7 comments:
I kinda like it when you sound girlie.
Hey beauty,
I´d wanted to see his face when he saw what he was going to get for dinner! Shit happens!
Invite Carter if it feels ok and leave it to him to decide - as you wrote, it´s always nice to be asked.
you showed humour, flexibility and traditional female values. i am sure he decided to love then and there. you can always pitch it like you're providing opportunities and the rest is up to him.
Male perspective: if you want him to be there, ask him. sounds pretty simple, huh? But there is more to it than that: you have to be ready not to feel foolish or snubbed at all, if he doesn't come. As you said, you would like to be asked, but would probably say no - maybe it is the same for him.
It sounds as if he is pretty keen, so go for it.
As for whether you are 'single' or not and whether you should stop doing things, well, that's up to you, but the acid test is to ask yourself whether you would be comfortable for him to act in a similar manner. For example, if you found out he had been on a date with another girl, would that worry you? If so, then maybe you shouldn't date other people yourself.
Ultimately, though, you might have to talk to each other about your resepctive desires and expectations ... nobody wants to do it, not least because it risks creating an impasse, but it can help to avoid misunderstandings.
Oh God I would just have died with that mould story. However I think if you want Carter to come to these two events then ask him. If you want your space and want time without him, then don't invite him but tell him that you are going..see what he says
Another male perspective-maybe compromise and ask him to the party? I don't know your friend, but cheese and wine might not be as fun for him as the party. Then you'd still get some space and the party would be a good mixer opportunity, maybe more relaxed?
elisabeth, i would like to get some advice on champagne. i am turning 32 in mid December and before going to a gig i would like to invite some 6-15 people for drinks. i like it dry but also want complexity and richness in taste. a recommendation in each price segment: low-medium-high. feel free to recommend good finger food with the champagne.
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